To be deceptive is to not tell the truth. To be honest or true means to be honest with someone or something. But to be deceptive is to not tell the truth.
How many times have you seen a human being in a life-threatening situation go into a coma, and then die? I know some of you have never known the reality of what happens to you. But for those of you who know the truth, it’s a bit of a revelation.
Deception, which is a state of mind where it feels as if you’re deceiving someone, is a bit disconcerting. After all, we all have a human tendency to think we’re deceiving someone, and that’s what being deceptive is about. It’s about the possibility that we’re lying to someone.
Its a bit similar to the concept of a lie. The main difference is that a lie is a verbal or written statement that is intentionally misleading. In contrast, deception is the opposite of truth. One of the most effective deceptive statements is probably this quote: “Your father is the one who stole your bike.” Thats a statement of truth. A human being who is deceitful may be saying that your father is the one who did something bad to you, and that is not the truth.
Sometimes we lie to ourselves. For example, I’ve heard myself say something like “I’m going to leave this house, and I’m going to live in a shack on the other side of the lake.” When I say something like this, I’m actually going to do it. But this isn’t a lie. I’m not going to live in a shack on the other side of the lake.
If we’re being honest, most of us do lie to ourselves in one form or another. A good example would be when we’re in a conversation, and we say something like Im going to go to the bathroom, and im going to lie to myself and say I’m going to eat that pizza. Now this is a lie. Im not going to eat that pizza.
So what are you going to do? Well, that’s not something that we, nor anyone else, can fully control. I’ve known people to lie to themselves, but they usually aren’t the ones lying. What I have found is that the people who are the most prone to lying are those who are the most confident and self-aware.
What you want to do is to make sure you make sure you’re not actually lying to yourself. You can’t just call them on it because they’re not even the most confident. We have a few ways to do that but that’s for another day.
People tend to lie to themselves because it’s a way to control how they think and feel. We all have that tendency to say things that we think will make us feel good but which we just aren’t feeling. People who are more confident and self-aware will be more likely to avoid doing this. It is important for a confident person to make sure they don’t lie to themselves.
If they believe they won’t lie to themselves, then they must be aware of what they are doing. They are not. If they believe they are fully capable of making it up, then they are fully capable of telling. If they lie, then they are lying.