“The most amazing part of my day is when I get to see my son’s face,” says a mom of a two-year-old. “It really changes my day.
A new mom was at my house today with her two little boys and when the mom asked about my son, she pointed to the little boy in my living room. I’ve been trying to imagine what she saw. She then asked if we could play hide and seek. I said no, and she pointed to the little boy in my living room. I didn’t see anything. She said that maybe he was just sitting there.
Apparently, the kid in my living room was actually there. And that’s how I know someone is actually there, instead of being somewhere else.
The reality is that most people are not able to see into the world much better than they can see into our own rooms. That’s why we often ask questions to see if there’s anything our own family members are doing wrong. That’s why we ask questions when we’re in the middle of a nightmare (like the one we just experienced), and why we ask questions when we’re in the middle of a crisis because we’re trying to figure out what to do.
What makes us question is that we don’t know our own answers. In particular, our own questions can be pretty difficult to answer.
One of the keys to making decisions more difficult is to ask yourself “why” and “how” questions, rather than “do” and “what.
A lot of what makes our lives difficult is the fact that we are constantly asking ourselves questions and have no answers. The question we ask ourselves is “Why?” and “How?” when we’re faced with decision-making challenges, we are in need of answers.
It’s a vicious circle that we all are running into, and I can’t get my head around it. When we ask ourselves the question “Why,” we want to know the answer because we are in need of the answer. When we ask the question “How,” we want to know the answer because we are in need of the answer.